The phone rings. It’s his principal…
“I’m calling to inform you that I am putting your son in ISS because he was talking in geometry and his teacher said that she asked him to stop talking twice. I really don’t know what happened. I have to check but he’s going to ISS. He also has some work that he hasn’t done so I’ll get her to send it there.”
“So let me get this straight. Without investigation or question, you are sending my son to ISS for talking? Let me repeat that…talking?!”
“Yes, he is going to ISS.”
My son, the same kid who will admit to the most ridiculous of things that he has done, who owns up to his consequences like a champ…who often does NOT tell me what happens to him because he knows that I lose it in these cases, responded…
“Mom, that referral was wrong. I’m not going to ISS. Can we talk about this?”
FYI: ISS = In School Suspension….where he sits on a stool all day in silence…100% Inhumane
Caught Between a Rock and a Hard Place
I’ve taught high school kids so I know that kids will often present a different side of the story to their parents. My son is a normal kid and he is not perfect but when he’s wrong, he says it…every single time. I’ve also been a high school teacher at THAT school and I know how teachers write referrals of insignificance and BECAUSE it was sent to the office, the AP’s stance is to abide by the referral with zero question.
Something as minor as talking can get a kid placed in ISS. Let me rephrase that. Something as minor as talking gets black and hispanic kids placed in ISS.
White kids don’t go to ISS for talking. White kids are not written up for talking.
That is a distinction most often reserved for black and hispanic kids…the ones without parents in the friend/family ring of the teacher.
My son wants to fight it. He wants to defend himself against what he believes are false accusations. Unfortunately, he can’t defend himself. His self-advocacy is considered insubordination.
He has no voice.
He has no choice.
He has no chance.
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