Going against the grain, you learn quickly that when things are going well, there will always be distractors to pull you down. This has been my life story.
As I excelled in school, kids teased often. It they weren’t making fun of my forehead, it was the way that I dressed and then it became my hair, to which they would copy a week later. I learned how to be thick skinned because you can’t do great in society without someone having something to say. My mother taught me that.
There will always be “haters.”
Hater: A person that simply cannot be happy for another person’s success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person. – UrbanDictionary.com
Last night, I received an email from “a concerned social citizen”. In the email, I was told that I was probably neglecting my family because I clearly don’t spend enough time with them. I tweet too much. I post too many blogs. I needed to step away from the computer and probably exercise. He was concerned that I was over-indulging in social media and he was “unfollowing” me so that I would stop.
First of all, the idea that his “unfollowing” me would do anything at all to make me stop was insanity. However, I tweeted a couple of tweets and then closed down my computer. He struck a nerve with his personal attack and I needed to deal. I’m not going to lie. That hurt…bad.
I am not new to being attacked personally. It has been a part of my being since I was a child. I learned to ignore it. As well as I did in my classroom, it happened often. For some reason, this I could not ignore.
My PLN has always been a source of positivity and inspiration. This person, one person, almost undid all that I believe in terms of connecting. I thought again about Amber Teamann’s post about putting out someone else’s candle and this morning I refuse to allow my light to be blown out for an idiot.
To be clear, I may socialize quite a bit online but I am also managing my family, running errands, writing a book, EXERCISING, being a normal mom and somehow in the middle of all of that I am learning and sharing.
You don’t have to follow me or anyone else. It is a choice. Unfollowing is a choice and should be done without an explanation. Dan Meyer unfollowed me and he didn’t send an email. 🙂
The lesson here is this…
There will always be haters. The only remedy for haters is to continue to be fabulous and pray that they find the inspiration to raise their own spirits so that they can stop hating on others.
If all else fails, find the silver lining that leads to a smile…and move on.