Shining Bright Amidst the “Haters”

Me with my Discovery Ed Rising Star award...The STAR in me is still shining!

Me with my Discovery Ed Rising Star award…The STAR in me is still shining!

Going against the grain, you learn quickly that when things are going well, there will always be distractors to pull you down. This has been my life story.

As I excelled in school, kids teased often. It they weren’t making fun of my forehead, it was the way that I dressed and then it became my hair, to which they would copy a week later. I learned how to be thick skinned because you can’t do great in society without someone having something to say. My mother taught me that.

There will always be “haters.”

Hater:ย A person that simply cannot be happy for another person’s success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person. – UrbanDictionary.com

Last night, I received an email from “a concerned social citizen”. In the email, I was told that I was probably neglecting my family because I clearly don’t spend enough time with them. I tweet too much. I post too many blogs. I needed to step away from the computer and probably exercise. He was concerned that I was over-indulging in social media and he was “unfollowing” me so that I would stop.

First of all, the idea that his “unfollowing” me would do anything at all to make me stop was insanity. However, I tweeted a couple of tweets and then closed down my computer. He struck a nerve with his personal attack and I needed to deal. I’m not going to lie. That hurt…bad.

I am not new to being attacked personally. It has been a part of my being since I was a child. I learned to ignore it. As well as I did in my classroom, it happened often. For some reason, this I could not ignore.

My PLN has always been a source of positivity and inspiration. This person, one person, almost undid all that I believe in terms of connecting. I thought again about Amber Teamann’s post about putting out someone else’s candle and this morning I refuse to allow my light to be blown out for an idiot.

To be clear, I may socialize quite a bit online but I am also managing my family, running errands, writing a book, EXERCISING, being a normal mom and somehow in the middle of all of that I am learning and sharing.

You don’t have to follow me or anyone else. It is a choice. Unfollowing is a choice and should be done without an explanation. Dan Meyer unfollowed me and he didn’t send an email. ๐Ÿ™‚

The lesson here is this…

There will always be haters. The only remedy for haters is to continue to be fabulous and pray that they find the inspiration to raise their own spirits so that they can stop hating on others.

If all else fails, find the silver lining that leads to a smile…and move on.




Comments 12

  1. Fantastic post! I agree, you can’t let others extinguish your light! Shine on!

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  2. I’m very surprised that someone sent you that email. And I would say it’s their perogative to follow or unfollow whoever they choose but to send you any sort of email telling you how to run your life is ridiculous. It is summertime, also, when we all have more time to read blogs, share online, write, and spend time how we choose. Anyway, it’s that old thing where we worry about the one negative comment and ignore the hundreds of pieces of positive feedback we get. Hang in and keep being passionate!

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      I struggled with how much I share anyway. I quit quantifying it because in all honesty, sharing is not about quantity but quality. I’m good now and have chosen not to even respond to it personally, per se. It was the strangest thing ever yet expected since my email is connected to my about.me

      I’m not even going to remove it. One bad apple doesn’t destroy all that we do. It’s too important to continue to share. Thank you so much because your fighting spirit definitely inspires many, especially me.

  3. Sweetie, you were one of the most valuable people I met at ISTE. Your positivity and enthusiasm is contagious. Thanks for all the smiles!

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      Well, that just made my morning. Thank you so much! I will definitely push the publish button even more ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. I appreciate all that you share here and how you so openly discuss topics others shy away from. Your gift to all of us ( and of course, yourself!) is in continuing to shine despite the haters. I’ve left schools because of the resentment from peers, but now I have just accepted that I can only be me and may have to deal with this anywhere I go. Stay strong and know how much so many of us appreciate you!

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      Thank you Joan! Definitely wish that we were neighbors just so that I could give you a hug and then Just Dance 3 after!

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  5. Wow. I’m speechless, and THAT is saying something.

    I hope that, after writing this post, you don’t give that person another second of your time, thoughts, or energy. Not worth it.

    Thank you for sharing your learning, your passions, and your struggles. We’re all better from what we learn together. Keep that candle lit, friend. You’re worth it. ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. I really enjoyed this post. I feel really bad that at end of this great reflection, I can’t get past wondering why Dan Meyer unfollowed you. Why, Dan? Why?

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